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Care For All – Transgender & Primary Care Specialties at North Memorial Health Clinics

It can be difficult when a friend or family member struggles with your transgender identity. But when it’s your primary care physician, you can face even greater discomfort and apprehension. Transgender individuals often confront unique […]

02.28.17 Rainbow Health Initiative Conference: “Opportunity: Advancing LGBTQ Health” St Paul MN


02.25.17 Minnesota Aids Walk “cool walk. warm hearts.” Minneapolis MN


MEDS4LIFE – Because Giving Back Is Still the Best Medicine

By Amy Moser Over 30 years ago, The Aliveness Project was born over potlucks and kitchen table conversations about AIDS, stigma, and survival. Refusing to be isolated from each other and loved ones, the HIV […]

Understanding and Dealing with the Death of a Partner

By Tony Del Percio It does not matter if you’re straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender: we are all human beings who have the capability to love and be loved. From the moment we are […]


Family & Friends

Skirting the Issues: Gavin Grimm

At this year’s Grammy Awards, transgender icon Laverne Cox interrupted her music star introduction to highlight the case of Gavin Grimm, a 17-year-old Virginia high school student who’s become the poster child for transgender rights […]

Dateland: Step It Up

When I married last year, I became stepmom to two boys, one in middle school and one in high school. At age 50, it’s been a tricky transition venturing from the shallow delights of a […]

Real Weddings: Kristy & A-K Gloe-Thordin

Photographer: Rebecca Jean Lawrence Photography Date of Wedding: September 4, 2016 Dating Since: September 2014 Location of Ceremony & Reception: Day Block Event Center Florist: Acanthus Wedding Coordinator: Sarah Springer Cake: Friends made the cake; Cookies by Kim […]

Real Weddings: Jesse & Sara Dykhuis

Photographer: Black Feather Creative Date of Wedding: September 26, 2016 Dating Since: 2012 Location of Ceremony & Reception: A friend’s farm in South Range, WI Florist: Wholesale flowers, designed by friends and family Wedding Coordinator: Jeremy Schrupp […]

Real Weddings: Tonia Aslakson & Rebecca “B” Bann Aslakson

Photographer: Charissa Norling Photography Date of Wedding: September 18, 2016 Dating Since: September 14, 2012 Location of Ceremony & Reception: Paikka Florist: Melissa Stratton, Sadie’s Couture Floral and Event Styling Wedding Coordinator: Savannah McDeid Stylist: Lori […]



2016 Holiday Gift Guide: Pets

Anyone who owns a pet knows that they are just as much a part of the family as any human; which means they get pampered and probably have one or two gifts under the tree […]

Downtown Dogs: A Pup’s Home Away From Home

Ralph Bernstein was a banker. He came to Minnesota in 1996 to work for a big company and, by the time he left, he was running a multimillion dollar business for them. “I had a pretty […]

Pets with Pride

We asked our Facebook followers to send in photos of their pets showing Pride. Keep a lookout for these Pride-ful pets this season! Penelope Starr sent in by Molly Gosh. Armani Vuitton Lueck sent in by […]

2015 Holiday Gift Guide: Nell Gelhaus

I am the worst gift-receiver. I hate being the center of attention, even for those few seconds of gift unwrapping. All eyes staring at me, anticipation building, expectant smiles as I squirm, sweat, blush… agh… […]

Posh Puppy: New Pet-Friendly Hotel Stay

Travel: we all do it at one point or another. How much do you pay for a dog-sitter? What about pet boarding? And after you pay those fees, how much time of your vacation is […]


Lifestyles & Communities

Skirting the Issues: Gavin Grimm

At this year’s Grammy Awards, transgender icon Laverne Cox interrupted her music star introduction to highlight the case of Gavin Grimm, a 17-year-old Virginia high school student who’s become the poster child for transgender rights […]

Leather Life: It’s A New Day

With all the media attention being given to presidential speeches lately, I thought I’d give some attention to a recent speech by another president: Randy Ingram-Lile, president of the Atons of Minneapolis. Ingram-Lile delivered his […]

From the Editor: Building Longer Tables

When I look back at 2017, I know that it will be far from a golden year. There will be no rose-colored glasses or waxing poetic over these first few months. But, what I hope […]

From the Editor: Our Way

Though I’m turning 40 next month and I’ve yet to marry, this is the 12th wedding issue I’ve produced. In a matter of no time, I could pretty much throw together a March Madness bracket’s […]

Leather Life: Mr. Twin Cities Leather 2017

This year’s Mr. Twin Cities Leather 2017 weekend, sponsored by Twin Cities Leather & Latte, was held at The Saloon from Friday, Feb. 14, to Sunday, Feb. 16. At least for your humble columnist, the […]



Leather Life: My Mother Mary

The GLBT and PFLAG communities recently lost a trailblazing author, activist, and advocate. My mother, Mary Virginia Borhek, age 94, of Pennswood Village in Newtown, Pennsylvania, departed this life on Tuesday, Oct. 25, 2016. I […]

05.07.16 2016 LGBTQ+ Catholic Youth Summit Minneapolis MN

Faith: It’s My Life, Not a Lifestyle

By Thomas Ehnert One of my favorite T-shirts has in huge black letters, “It’s my LIFE, not a lifestyle.” I was talking recently to someone who says he is becoming disenchanted with the “gay lifestyle.” […]

Conscience Equality

By Thomas Ehnert A part of me feels sorry for Josh Duggar and Kim Davis. Let me explain. Josh Duggar is the oldest of the famous 19 kids of the TLC channel’s reality show 19 […]

What Do We Do When Love Doesn’t Win?

By Thomas Ehnert I’m trying to absorb all that’s happened since June. First, the Supreme Court declared same-sex marriage the law of the land. I read the responses of my GLBT family with joy. I […]