Issue 412

Brand Loyalty

I am sitting at my desk at work, waiting for a phone call from a woman I’ve been courting. I have been doing so all day. She was supposed to call me last Friday, but she didn’t.

“Maybe she’s trapped in a car underwater, screaming out my name,” I told myself this morning, full of hope that she’d escape her watery grave, and call me today. But it’s almost 5 PM, and she hasn’t called.

Throughout the day, I did the things you do when you’re waiting for a call from a girl. I picked up the phone every five minutes to see if it was working. Then, I checked voicemail to make sure she didn’t call while I was testing the phone line. I walked away from my desk in hopes that if I played hard-to-get, she would call. I phoned my parents, and was nice to them, praying that God would reward me for being a good daughter. Read the rest of this entry »

Leather, Creating Change, and the Coming Post-GLBT Era

I have seen the future: the dawning of the post-GLBT era. But, I’m delighted to say, it does not need to be a post-kink era.

I saw the beginnings of this future at the 23rd annual Creating Change Conference, which the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) recently hosted in Minneapolis.

Yes, change definitely is being created, and it will affect those of us in the leather/BDSM/fetish community. But we have an opportunity to help create that change, and thereby influence it. Read the rest of this entry »

True Nightmares

I’m 14 years old when it first happens. I’m laying in bed with my eyes closed, the sound of The Golden Girls lulling me to sleep. I have school tomorrow. It’s about 11. I’m thinking of a midterm, a project, or something.

My television shuts off. Strange, I think, I don’t remember setting the sleep timer. I decide to switch it back on, but something’s not right. I can’t move—at all.

I can’t reach for my remote. I can’t climb out of bed. I can’t wiggle my toes. I can’t move my fingers. I can’t…scream. I’m in a state of incomprehension. Total shock. I’m paralyzed. Read the rest of this entry »

Specs Appeal

Eyeglasses are perhaps the ultimate accessory. Like a scarf or a watch, they not only can make a strong statement about your personality and style, but also have the unique ability to enhance the appearance of your face. The perfect frames are a synergy of form and function. They should be flattering, as well as comfortable, and should be in harmony with your lifestyle and goals. For a single accessory, that’s a tall order.

If you already are in the market for stylish new eyeglass frames, chances are you’ve been to several stores, tried on frame after frame, and still had difficulty finding that perfect pair. Read the rest of this entry »

Give Credit Where Credit Is Due

I have long been amazed—often astonished—by the brilliant ideas that pour forth from the American banking industry.

To be fair, however, I am also quite mystified by the intricate workings of the clothespin. And Velcro? Whew, that stuff just makes my head spin.

But back to bankers. For an example of their deep thinking, I noticed when I reentered college recently that I was suddenly deluged with credit card applications encouraging me to chase the “American Dream.” Well, geez, that’s just fine if the “American Dream” includes filing for Chapter Seven on graduation day. Read the rest of this entry »

Ms. Behavior© Twice Bitten

Dear Ms. Behavior:

My partner and I moved into a new building. Our neighbors, Tom and Mark, invited us to their place for a dinner party. They have a fluffy little dog that jumped up all over me. I am slightly fearful of dogs, but trying to overcome it.

When they said, “Oh, he’s just trying to get your attention—he wants you to pet him,” I bent down to greet the dog, who promptly bit my face. The bite drew blood. Read the rest of this entry »


Change I’d Rather Not Believe In

In late February, Attorney General Eric Holder announced that following two years to the contrary, the Obama Administration no longer would defend the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in court.

During his surprise announcement, Holder said that, following an examination of pending legal challenges, both he and President Barack Obama no longer believe the law is constitutional. Read the rest of this entry »

On Friendship

As I write, it’s hard to turn my thoughts to anything other than the tragedy unfolding in Japan following last week’s 8.9 earthquake, and the ensuing tsunami crashing over that country’s northern territories.

Hard, too, to say anything that will make a difference. Oh, it’s important for Americans to provide aid, and to offer prayers of whatever sort for those citizens bereft of homes and loved ones. But one really can do nothing in the face of what to the Earth is a shrug of its mantle and a wrinkling of its surface waters. Read the rest of this entry »

Winning Marriage Equality Debuts in St. Cloud

Marriage equality has been in the spotlight recently, as President Barack Obama announced the federal ban on same-sex marriage is unconstitutional, spurring Democrats in Washington, DC, to discuss an attempt to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). Denny Smith of St. Cloud, Minnesota, wants to bring the same-sex marriage debate to the forefront both statewide and beyond through the new organization he founded, Winning Marriage Equality (WME), of which is Executive Director. Read the rest of this entry »

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