Issue 402

“It Gets Better”

Love one another.” It’s a simple, memorable, and easy-to remember phrase uttered, one is told, some 2010 years ago. People need such phrases, even though—like “Love one another”—they can be difficult to follow.

“It gets better”—another simple, easy-to-remember phrase—has sprung to life the past few weeks through the agency of Dan Savage, author of the sex-advice column “Savage Love,” and his partner, Terry Miller. They were moved by the recent spate of suicides of young gay persons, some not yet in their teens. Read the rest of this entry »

Lavender’s More Fabulous!

With this issue you’re reading—our annual Fab 50—Lavender is more fabulous, too. You’ll notice a number of changes we’ve made with you, our readers and advertisers, in mind. Read the rest of this entry »

On the Townsend

Spilling Me Softly: or Once the Gulf Goes Black, It Never Goes Back
Through Oct. 30
Brave New Workshop
2605 Hennepin Ave. S., Mpls.
(612) 332-6620

More inspired by the film Inception than the oil cataclysm, this sharply-acted revue boldly addresses Michele Bachmann’s homophobia, Tom Emmer’s tipping debacle, and Tea Party absurdities. It marks a double-growth spurt for director Caleb McEwen, who brings an uncharacteristic but effective surrealist edge to this show. He also codirects Dudley: Rigged for Success, History Theatre’s current wonderful biocomedy on Brave New Workshop founder Dudley Riggs. Read the rest of this entry »

Triangle of Hope Hosts 15th-Anniversary Show

Triangle of Hope (TOH) hosts its 15th-anniversary “Ex-drag-a-ganza” show on November 7, 5 PM, at the Town House bar in St. Paul. Featuring a cavalcade of performers, it’s a fundraiser for Clare Housing.

The late Gary Hinze founded TOH in November 1995 to raise money for individuals living with HIV/AIDS. Over the past 15 years, it has put on myriad events, donating hundreds of thousands of dollars to local groups. Read the rest of this entry »

A Passing Glance

Behind every glance, beyond every passing brush, a million memories reside. Each day, we pass by the most enthralling stories in the world: the true lives of other people. Strangers.

We spend a great deal of our lives with them. We admire a few on the beach. We’re humbled by those living on the street. Some we speak to: servers, cashiers, clients.

But we never collect more than a fragment of who they are. In the vein of the professional, we most frequently are unscathed by their troubles. We aren’t afforded the right to bask with them in their happiness. Read the rest of this entry »

Hi-Tech Installations

The modern house can be equipped with an interactive security system, including monitoring and surveillance, which can warn you of a wet floor, a carbon monoxide leak, and high and low temperatures. It’s something straight out of a science fiction novel, and we’re living it now.

Installing such systems is the handiwork of Jim Tuomisto, owner of Hi-Tech Installations, who says, “It is just an extension of what I did in the Navy. You have the same kind of communications on a Navy ship, so technically, I’ve been doing the same kind of thing since 1977.” Read the rest of this entry »


Here are two great things about having a stepson:

1. He’s not really yours, so you’re not responsible for how he turns out.

2. You can experiment on him.

I recently acquired a stepson, and it’s a lot more fun than I anticipated. When my girlfriend and I got together two years ago, she warned me about the boy, who was 8 years old at the time. Read the rest of this entry »

Pillow Talk

Albert Einstein needed 12 uninterrupted hours of it every single night of his life. Thomas Edison and Teddy Roosevelt got by on only four. Studies indicate the average individual requires eight hours.

Naturally, I refer to the time each of us spends watching Bravo’s Real Housewives of….

Actually, I am referring to sleep—certainly the least-understood of the body’s requirements, with the possible exception of our craving for candy corn and beer nuts. Read the rest of this entry »

Ms. Behavior© It’s Going To Be OK

When I was a kid, I did not know anyone gay or lesbian, except for my mother’s “swishy” haircutter, who dubbed himself “Mr. Robert.” And perhaps, in retrospect, the strapping female summer camp counselor who always showed up with a tennis racket in the middle of the night to fend off bats.

By the time I was in my midteens, I desperately needed to talk to someone about being gay. I convinced my parents to let me see a therapist, but I couldn’t tell them why. Read the rest of this entry »

Sanctuary: Menu Reveals Cool Hand & Playful Spirit

Loath as I am to begin with a quote, I must admit that quite often throughout the history of the recorded word, the concept I am formulating already has been expressed—more perfectly—by someone else.

It wasn’t a Greek philosopher, but rather the author of a book on gardening, who said, “Sanctuary, on a personal level, is where we perform the job of taking care of our soul.” At the moment, I have no better, more succinct description than that. Read the rest of this entry »

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