Leather Life: Beyond the Rainbow – There’s A Flag For That

By Steve Lenius August 1, 2019
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Recently someone asked me for a copy of an article I wrote that was published in 2011 in the Journal of Bisexuality (vol. 11, issue 4). In the article I said I believed we were “on the verge of a post-GLBT world, where the terms for which those initials stand will have faded into irrelevance.” I continued by writing, “Based on the direction in which I think things are moving, the future will be pangender, pansexual and very open to kink and other forms of alternative sexual expression.”

Now, eight years later, it seems to me that we as a community are continuing to move in this direction. And we have made a lot of progress.

Why do I say that? Take a look at all the flags in the Twin Cities Pride parade this year. And look especially at where all those flags were in the parade lineup. At the head of the parade, the first flag was the huge parade-size rainbow flag. This was followed by the bisexual pride flag, the transgender pride flag, and the U.S. Unity flag, which is the Stars and Stripes reimagined to reflect, in the words of unityflag.com, inclusion of “women, people of color, religious minorities, LBGTQ people and Native Americans.” The U.S. Unity flag incorporates a slice of the rainbow flag on its left edge.

The final giant flag at the start of this year’s Twin Cities Pride parade was the huge parade-size leather pride flag, carried by members of the parade’s leather contingent. But other members of the leather contingent marched in front of the leather pride flag and carried a collection of other pride flags. Along with smaller versions of the rainbow flag, leather pride flag, bisexual flag, and transgender flag, there were pride flags representing newer gender and sexual orientations: pansexual, genderqueer and non-binary. There also were pride flags for bears, rubber wear enthusiasts, and puppies and handlers, as well as a BDSM rights flag. (If you are not familiar with these flags, see the pictures on this page.)

Seeing all these flags in the parade, the thought occurred to me: Whatever gender you are, whatever your orientation, whatever your interest—well, there’s a flag for that.

These newer flags represent continuing efforts to expand freedom and enhance possibilities for everyone—everyone—to be who they are and to live as they choose. Historically, society has tried to tell people who they are (male or female), whom they are supposed to love (someone of the opposite sex), and how they are supposed to love (vanilla sex, preferably missionary position).

If I find that society’s expectations don’t work for me, I have two ways of looking at the situation:

The first way: I can assume that society’s expectations are correct and therefore there is something wrong with me. I then might try to change myself to fit society’s expectations. Or I may find that I can’t change, which means I live my life in shame and misery, feeling inferior and hating myself for my shortcomings.

The second way: I can assume there is nothing wrong with my desire to live an authentic life in matters of who I am, whom I love, and how I love. I can say that society’s expectations are not correct for me—these expectations are outmoded, unrealistic, unfair and limiting. I might then try to change society and its expectations.

Fifty years ago, that’s what Stonewall was all about. Today, fifty years later, the process continues. Each of the flags in the parade says that we, as individuals and as a community, have claimed—and are fighting for—freedom concerning who we are, whom we love, and how we love.

It’s great to see, and to be among, people who look at things the second way (as described above), and who feel free to be themselves. As I walked the parade route taking pictures of the parade, I saw joy in the faces of the people carrying all these flags. I saw that same joy in the faces of the people watching the parade, and I saw it in the faces of the people in Loring Park at the Pride festival after the parade. It warmed my heart and made my day.

But I know there still are people who look at things the first way (as described above). They suffer in straitjackets of society’s making—straitjackets they have adopted as their own. As we continue to claim, and fight for, our own freedom, we are fighting for theirs, too. We must keep being who we are, and being visible, as an example that might let them set themselves free.

Beyond the rainbow flag—Pride flags carried by the members of the leather contingent in this year’s Twin Cities Pride parade, from left: Bisexual; transgender; pansexual; genderqueer; non binary; bear; puppy; rubber; and BDSM rights.

Bisexual Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Transgender Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Pansexual Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Genderqueer Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Non-Binary Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Bear Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Puppy Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

Rubber Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

BDSM RIghts Flag. Photo by Steve Lenius.

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