Dating & Relationships
Dateland: My Days Among the Super Rich, Part I
When American Airlines declared bankruptcy in late 2011, I decided to cash in all my air miles and “treat myself.” I’m well aware that this statement makes it seem that “treating myself” is a relatively [...]
Through These Eyes: The Lullaby Is Mine
I still feel his chest under my head. I still hear his heartbeat–counting the pulses to lull me to sleep. I still feel his fingers in my hair. His skin beneath my fingertips. His breath [...]
Commentary: Against the Amendment
December 3rd, 2011 my husband Dean and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary. Dean proposed to me on my 40th birthday. After being together for five years, and opening the Wilde Roast Café together, we [...]
Skirting the Issues: MAD Malaise
“No way do you look fifty-five,” someone said the other day. For a second, I felt wonderful. Then I remembered: I really am fifty-five. I agree that I don’t look my age. Nor, for that [...]
Ms. Behavior
Dear Ms. Behavior: I am a 22-year-old lesbian and I always fall for older women. Recently I ended up with a 44-year-old divorced woman who has three children. She was never with a woman prior [...]
Socially Savvy: For Valentine’s Day, Treat Yourself
Holidays come with their own levels of expectation—turkey for one, champagne toasts on another. It is no wonder that Valentine’s Day may require the most daunting of all expectations: a willing participant. Sending cards, delivering [...]
Ms. Behavior: Deafness and Jealousy
Dear Ms. Behavior: I’m a lesbian and slightly hard of hearing. Last night a friend told me about a scientific report from a few years ago, alleging that lesbians have hearing similar to that of [...]
Dateland: My Role Models
I’m writing this in a hospital. My mother and I are waiting for my father to come out of surgery. He needs surgery because he injured himself while chopping down a tree yesterday. My father [...]
Dateland: Sleeping with Mrs. Bachmann
I have a terrible confession. Every woman I have ever slept with has been a Republican. Even if they wouldn’t admit it. I always manage to suss it out. They stare wistfully at protesters at [...]
Ms. Behavior: Brutal Breakup
Dear Ms. Behavior: I’ve just had the worst breakup of my life. She didn’t bother to tell me we were breaking up — by the time I saw that her Facebook status was ‘single,’ several [...]





















